Do you have a VISION for your life?
Have you discovered YOUR purpose?
I'm sure you have ideas and goals and bucket lists and dreams (I know this because we're kindred spirits in that way.)
But do you have a VISION?
This was a question I asked myself a few years back. 4 years ago I graduated from Utah State University with literally NO CLUE what I wanted to do with my life. Everything that I had ever thought I wanted to do no longer felt right.
Is this you?
Believe me, I GET IT.
I know what you're going through, because I've been there too. For YEARS I struggled with finding my purpose and creating a vision for my life. Changing my major in college 500 times (okay, maybe just 10-20 times, but still), never feeling fulfilled, having relationships not work because I wasn't being true to myself. I didn't know who I was. Running from pain, going from job to job trying to fill the void, moving to different cities all over the country trying to find my place and never feeling like I quite fit in and always knowing that there was something more.
Finally, came the REALIZATION and then came the RUMBLING. It took a lot of work, but I have experienced a TRANSFORMATION.
I HAVE FOUND MY VISION.
I could feel the universe calling me. An idea led to a plan, which led to support, which led to finally finding the courage to jump! And that jump has made all the difference. So many times, believe me, I have doubted myself and the little girl in my head says, "What are you doing? You can't do this, no one is going to want to hear your message. You are alone." She also sometimes says, "You can't try this. You will fail. People will think you are crazy." But guess what I realized?
That little girl is wrong.
Man, if I listened to that voice I would not be here now! I wouldn't have ever left my old life to chase my dreams. I would never have met all the wonderful people and had the amazing experiences that have brought me to this place right now. I would never have learned how amazing it feels to take a risk in the right direction and then feel the universe push me along. There came a point where I knew what I wanted but I didn't know how to get there. I am so glad I listened to the voice that told me I needed help.
Acting on the prompt to invest in myself was telling the universe that I was READY!
Are you feeling stuck, numb, lost, and confused? Are you overwhelmed, know you are destined for more, and just don't know how to make this amazing new life you are dreaming of a reality? If this sounds like you, won't worry about it! I'm here for you!
RIGHT NOW YOU ARE STUCK IN A COMFORT ZONE. BUT YOU WANT OUT.
NOW IS THE TIME.
So how do you discover your purpose and create your vision?
Here are the 7 steps I followed in discovering this for myself and how YOU CAN DO IT TOO!
Step 1. CHILDHOOD INFLUENCES
Some people believe that our society and childhood upbringing do not influence who we are today, but that is simply not true. They DO influence who we are to the deepest level. That doesn’t mean that past experiences can’t be worked through and moved on from, but recognizing how your past influences who you are today is the first step in finding your purpose.
Another thing that seems to come up here is that there are some people who have a specific talent that is so extreme that it is easy to detect that they were truly “made” to do it. For the rest of us, determining what we were “made to do” can be a little less obvious. Part of the reason our natural skills and abilities are not obvious is because most of us are influenced by our families and society to follow paths that we’re “supposed” to do. Our roles, careers, hobbies, and relationships are often chosen for us more because of our conditioning or because we feel we “should” rather than because they are a fit for who we truly are. I put off looking into interior design programs for years and years mainly because I didn’t think my parents would think that career was “scholarly” enough. Not until I finally took off the masks I had been wearing because of who/what I thought I was “supposed to be, did I finally come to manifest my purpose.
Step 2. Personality
Personality is the set of descriptive terms which are used to describe an individual. Gordon Allport said, “Personality is the dynamic organization INSIDE a person… characteristics, patterns of behavior, thoughts, and feelings.” What do you value? What makes you tick? How do you prefer to work? How do you relate to your world? Investigating your personality can be so powerful.
There are so many tests. I’d suggest you take one. My favorite is the 16 personalities Test. Look it up and take it, I promise it will give you some clues. And maybe you won’t agree with everything. Take another one. There are color tests, the enneagram… try them all and pull the things you agree with because while these tests are great starting points, you are unique and cannot be placed into a little box. But they will give you insights and I bet you will agree with more than you think.
Step 3. Passions and Interests
In life, there are things we just absolutely LOVE to do. There are things we naturally feel drawn to. There are activities we lose ourselves in when we experience flow. When thinking about your passions and interests, ask yourself, what did I enjoy doing as a child? What do I do in my free time? If I could do anything, I would… fill in the blank. When do I feel energized? When do I feel “lost” in what I’m doing, when the world seems to melt away? Look into the things that fill you up. That bring you joy. That you just love doing.
Step 4. Talents and Skills
There are things we are innately good at. That we have had inside us since birth. These are our talents. Look into those things. And think outside the box. Not all talents are the most visible to the naked eye. Some are less obvious. If you are having a hard time seeing your talents, ask your family and friends. I promise they will be able to fill you in on what you are not seeing yourself.
Skills, on the other hand, are something you develop. So, when thinking about your purpose, don’t get caught thinking that just because something doesn’t come naturally to you doesn’t mean you aren’t meant to do it. There are some things in anything you will do that you have to learn. I am naturally good at listening and helping people find solutions. However, I am not so good at figuring out how to embed code into my website. If I would have stopped when everything didn’t come naturally, I wouldn’t have made it here.
Step 5. Life Changing Experiences
Life is so complex that we sometimes miss patterns or circumstances that have truly influenced us because we are so focused on getting by or thinking about the past or future. However… nothing is a coincidence and things happen for a reason. When trying to find your purpose, look back over your life, what things stand out? What experiences have been especially meaningful to you? What has your life been focused on? See any themes? Have you been being guided the whole time? Maybe you are right at the cusp of your mission, being prepared all along the way.
Step 6. Eliminating Limiting Beliefs
Limiting Beliefs are behind every fear, frustration, and obstacle. I am so passionate about this subject because I struggled with limiting beliefs my entire life until I discovered this. And it's still a process, believe me. In order fully discover your purpose, you must pull the plug on limiting beliefs and empower yourself with new empowering beliefs. This takes time and effort, but it is SO worth it. You have to believe you can do anything. Because you can.
Step 7. Clarify Your Purpose
Combine everything you’ve learned along these 7 steps and move in a direction. What direction are you being pointed? Sometimes we have to take a few steps before we know if it feels right. You have the power to rewrite your story. Don’t like where you’re headed? The direction you’re going in doesn’t feel, right? CHANGE!
Give yourself permission to change your mind. To experiment. That’s the beauty of this path of discovery. It’s a journey. You can enjoy the process.
And Always remember… You can have anything you truly desire.
You can DISCOVER your PURPOSE and DESIGN your VISION.
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