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New Year... Do you Have a Vision?

It’s a new year… do you have a vision?

Isn't it amazing the enormous affects our choices can have on our lives?

Isn't it crazy how the smallest, most seemingly non-significant (or sometimes the obviously significant) choices can change everything about where we're headed?

This is something that I think about often because so many of the things I currently enjoy in my life were the creation of a domino effect of choices. One on top of the other that couldn’t have happened any other way.

It’s incredible.

When I think on this, one of the first experiences that comes to mind is when I made the choice to move to Washington DC, the choices I made while there, how it changed me and my direction since then, and how that experience continues to effect my life today.

Not only did that decision completely influence the person I have become, it influenced all the choices I've made since then and continues to influence where I am now and where I want to go.

In the book Anatomy of Spirit Caroline Myss said, "It is not WHAT we choose that matters; our power actually lies in our REASONS for making a certain choice. Choice has a mysterious power, for we will never know the full outcome of any choice we make. [or don't make]."

That's why having a vision is so important.

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And it’s a new year…. Do you have a Vision?

Four and a half years ago, I had lived in Utah my whole life and I just needed a change. I just wanted to experience something different so badly. And so I packed up all my stuff and I moved.

I drove by myself across the country to Washington DC to start a different life. I didn't know a single person. I had like $300 in my bank account. It was completely crazy when I think about it now, but I just wanted it so bad and so I did it. The first week that I was here I was really struggling. Like I just did all this and the fears started coming up, the excitement of doing it was over, and I was seriously thinking, "Oh crap, what am I going to do now?"

How am I going to make my life work and how am I going to survive and I don't know anyone.

That HUGE choice led to many many more little choices of where I was going to work and what I was going to do and who I was going to associate with and who I was going to be. And I was overwhelmed with the decisions and the enormity of it all.

It was rough.

BUT I had a vision. I had a vision of the experience I wanted to have there and the reasons why I had come. I also had a mental image in my head of this bridge and it had been the thing that had carried me the whole time that I'd been driving across the country.

This bridge was in my mind because 10 years prior when my family had come here on vacation, we had driven and we parked on this road and this had been the first thing that I saw in DC (it's funny because the view I saw was actually a view of Arlington, which is where the bulk of my experiences happened).

And I had just fallen in love with it.

And so I kept seeing this vision of this bridge. I didn't know where it was. That first week that I was there I rented a bike and I rode around and finally I went down by the water and I saw this image of the bridge and I just stood here on this bank and I just cried

Because,

that vision, that thing that I've been there seeing in my mind since the moment I had decided to move to DC was right there and I stood there on that bank and I just really grounded into why I was there and why I'd made the decision to come and why it was so important to me to do that and what it was that I wanted to create.

I wanted to experience different things and I wanted to expand my vision of the world and I wanted to meet different kinds of people and I wanted those experiences to change me.

And that's exactly what has happened.

I cherish that experience so much. I'm so glad that I pushed through the fears that that came up when I was making those choices because they shaped me and they led me to the things I'm doing now. And they gave me so much experience and even now, four years later, I'm still reaping benefits of those choices.

We have to have a vision in order to carry us through the hard times that are going to come up whenever we're trying to create something, something better in our lives, something different in our life, something new in our lives.

Fears are going to come up. And the only way that we can make it through that is if we have a really strong vision for what we are creating.

What are you wanting to create in your life?

What is the big picture thing you are wanting to do?

You MUST create a vision for yourself and really ground into why you're wanting to create that.

2 questions to ask yourself when you're creating your vision...

1) Think about your 80 year old self. What will your 80-year old self think about the choice you're about to make. How would your life that you're living now versus the life that you would have if you make the choice be different?  

2) Ask yourself what will happen if I don't do this? What will happen if I don't make this choice? Whether for yourself, or for your life, or for your family, or for your self esteem, or for your finances or whatever it is. What will happen if you don't do this thing.

I remember the morning that I was going to leave to start my drive to Washington D.C. all those years ago and I had my car packed up and I was ready to go and I was sitting at the kitchen table and I just was sobbing and my mom was like, "Well, maybe this is a sign that you're not supposed to go". She didn't want me to go, as any mother would not want to send their daughter away.

But I was like, no, that's absolutely not it. I know 100 percent that I'm supposed to go. This is just the fear and the feelings of insecurity that are coming up, but I 100 percent know that I'm supposed to do this.

Looking back, I completely know that because, that decision completely changed who I am, my self esteem was completely changed, and it's led me to the paths of everything that I've done since.

Our choices matter. They just do. But don't let that scare you from moving forward.

When you ground into WHY you are doing what your doing and what your VISION is for your life, the decisions you are faced with then become a creative process that is fun as you CREATE the life and experiences you want to have. When you live life through this lens you can never regret a single decision because all of those seemingly small (or big) choices lead you exactly where you want to go.

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Moments that Sustain You

REINFORCEMENT.

When we're on the cusp of doing something amazingly scary or something that's out of our comfort zone, something that we really desire to do, but we know is going to push us, it gets a little scary and we need some things to hold us together and create that glue inside ourselves that will push us through the fears and the struggles.

So how can we create that glue?

Number 1. Moments that sustain you.

Think back and remember experiences that you've had in your life, about moments that sustain you, times that you've been brave in the past, times when people that you know have been brave in the past, inspirational stories that you can glean from, of times that can lift you up now and give you the courage to make these new leaps.

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Sometimes it's only while looking backwards that we're able to see the proof of how things actually worked out.

When we talk about overcoming limiting beliefs we talk about finding proof in our lives that those limiting beliefs are not true. This is basically that same process of finding the proof that we've done scary and hard and challenging things before and that those times worked out. Even if there were a lot of hurdles, we had to jump over.

They worked out and we can be brave again now.

In the book "Anatomy of the Spirit" (By: Caroline Myss) it talks about was how when we have a dream inside of us sometimes it just won't go away and when we act on that dream, it shows the universe that we are serious about doing things and things just start to work.

The book gives an example of a man who couldn't stop having this dream about moving to Montana. He lived on the east coast. He had a really, really successful and financially stable job, but he just couldn't get this idea out of his head.

He kept having this dream, this recurring dream to move to Montana, which made absolutely no sense. He didn't know anyone there. He didn't have a job there. He didn't have any reason why he would possibly want to go there, but it just wouldn't go away.

Finally one day he just walked into his job and he just knew that he had to do something about it or he was going to go crazy. So he quit and when he told his coworkers what he was doing they were like, "well what great new life are you moving to?" And he said, "I absolutely have nothing. I'm just following a dream." He moved to Montana. He started living on this farm and they let him work for him and over time he grew a love for working with his hands on the farm.

They had a daughter that came back the following summer and eventually they got married, he inherited their farm and created this whole new different life that he would never have had if he had not had the courage to act on those stirrings.

An example from my own life  that I just feel so incredibly grateful for now.

Two years ago I launched my business. I was working on things. I was trying to create massive shifts. At that same time I was diagnosed with cancer and I was fired from my job. I was trying to start my business and so many things were not working.

I knew of this conference that was going on hosted by a wonderful mentor of mine in Sonoma county for her clients. I was not one of her clients but I just could not stop thinking about this conference.

I knew I had to be there.

It would not leave my mind.

Finally, after two months of thinking about it, like a month before the conference, I called her and I said, I know you're having this conference and I know it's only for your clients, but I just can't stop thinking about it. Can I come? And she said, yeah, we would absolutely love for you to be there. It costs a thousand dollars.

Well, like I said, I had lost my job. I'd had a couple months of not working. I was going through cancer and had just recently had surgery. I was trying to make my business work. I had just gotten a part time job, but a lot of financial pieces were in the air and I had barely over a thousand dollars in my bank account, but I just absolutely knew that I needed to go to this conference. And so I paid the money.

I drove to Sonoma from Las Vegas, where I was living at the time, went to the conference, had a wonderful experience, met amazing women, and just loved it.

And then I went home and thought, well that was really great that I did that. I'm not sure how I'm going to come up with the money that I need from now on, but I'm really glad that I did that.

Well, a week later this wonderful woman called me and asked if I would like to join her team and that opportunity led to many more opportunities and is the sole reason I am where I am now. I get to talk with women every day and create really amazing experiences with this opportunity that came from that leap of faith that I took from that moment where I said, I really just don't know how this is going to work, but I just absolutely know I have to do this.

And so I did.

I so often find myself just giddy with excitement, happiness, and joy that I get to help other women that are MAKING THEIR DREAMS HAPPEN TOO!

It's amazing when you can look back on those experiences in your life and see the proof of when those scary times paid off.

So.... MOMENTS THAT SUSTAIN YOU.

As you look back on your own life and think about those times when you have made big, scary decisions and then look forward and see how those decisions have worked out.

When we're standing on the cliff it's really scary. So when we can look back and see the times when things have worked out and what amazing things have come from those leaps of faith, it gives us the courage to step forward into the new whatever that we're trying to create now.

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I am absolutely in love with the life that I'm living right now and the things that I get to do and all of that is because of some really scary moments and some big leaps that I made. And that's why I want the same thing for you.

Sometimes it's about being brave with our money. Sometimes it's about being brave with our time. Sometimes it's about being brave with our emotions, but it's about REMEMBERING the times we have been brave in the past and creating REINFORCEMENT in our minds that we can be brave NOW.

What is one of your MOMENTS THAT SUSTAIN YOU? Please share in the comments below!

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BE BRAVE in 2019

Is 2019 going to be YOUR YEAR to say YES to LIFE and STEP into a whole NEW CHAPTER?

Let’s JUMP IN make 2019 your BEST YEAR YET!

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Are you feeling the stirrings for something more in your life?

Do you know you're meant to expand, but you just don't know how or where to start?

Is your vision for your life bigger than you, you're ready to take some action, but are a bit scared of the journey?

Believe me, I get it. I have made some pretty big shifts outside of my comfort zone. Some pretty big choices that ended up changing everything.

Isn't it amazing the enormous effects our choices can have on our lives?

Isn't it crazy how the smallest, most seemingly non-significant (or sometimes the obviously significant) choices can change everything about where we're headed?

I'll never forget the choice I made to move to Washington DC, the choices I made while there, how it changed my life forever and my direction since then.

Not only did that decision completely influence the person I have become, it influenced all the choices I've made since then and continues to influence where I am now and where I want to go.

In the book "Anatomy of Spirit" Caroline Myss said, "It is not WHAT we choose that matters; our power actually lies in our REASONS for making a certain choice. Choice has a mysterious power, for we will never know the full outcome of any choice we make. [or don't make]."

That's why having a vision is so important.

Five years ago, having lived in Utah my whole life, I just needed a change. I wanted to experience something different so badly. So I packed up all my stuff and I moved.

I drove by myself across the country to Washington DC to start a different life. I didn't know a single person. I had like $300 in my bank account. It was completely crazy when I think about it now, but I just wanted it so bad and so I did it. The first week that I was here I was really struggling. The fears really started coming up, the excitement of doing it was over, and I was seriously thinking, "Oh crap, what am I going to do now?"

How am I going to make my life work and how am I going to survive and I don't know anyone.
That HUGE choice led to many many more little choices of where I was going to work and what I was going to do and who I was going to associate with and who I was going to be. And I was overwhelmed with the decisions and the enormity of it all.

It was rough.

BUT I had a vision. I had a vision of the experience I wanted to have there and the reasons why I had come. I grounded into why I was there and why I'd made the decision to go and why it was so important to me and what it was that I wanted to create.

I wanted to experience different things and expand my vision of the world. I wanted to meet different kinds of people. I wanted those experiences to change me.

And that's exactly what happened.

I cherish that experience that I had so much. I'm so glad that I pushed through the fears that came up when I was making those choices because they shaped me and they led me to the things I'm doing now. They gave me so much experience and even now, five years later, I'm still reaping benefits of those choices.

We have to have a vision in order to carry us through the hard times that are going to come up whenever we're trying to create something, something better in our lives, something different in our life, something new.

Fears are going to come up. And the only way that we can make it through is if we have a really strong vision for what we are creating.

What are you wanting to create in your life?

What is the big picture you are wanting to do?

You MUST create a vision for yourself and really ground into why you're wanting to create that.

And then you will find....

Courage.

So how are you going to BE BRAVE in 2019? What are you going to put in your bag of life to equip you in times of fear?

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I’d love to invite you to join us next week for the BE BRAVE JOURNEY: 5 days to Courage where will walk through the steps I learned on my own journey to courage.

Please join me in discovering how you are enough, just as you are, to take that leap you've been dying to take.

YOU GET TO DO EVERYTHING YOU DREAM.

Click the link below to grab your spot for the Challenge! Starts next Monday! See you soon!

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Envision 2019

Merry Christmas!


I hope you are enjoying this day with loved ones. Isn't the anticipation for seeing someone's face when you open the gift you so carefully picked out or made for them just the best thing ever? I am so excited to gift you my holiday gift to you. Thank you for being here. Thank you for being part of my community. I consider it such an honor to get to be in your here and do what I do and strive to light up your days if even just for a moment. 


My holiday gift to you today is exclusive access to the 4th Edition of the Envision Workbook! This PDF download will support you in reflecting on 2018 and setting intentions for 2019. Have I mentioned this is my very favorite time of year? 


Do you want to know why?


Because I LOVE visioning. I love reflecting. And I love the power that comes from doing them together. It is incredibly altering when you can take a few moments to be with yourself and reflect on what you gained from the past year.... what worked... what didn't work.... what were your biggest take-aways? 


And then PLAN. Nothing comes to pass that we don't see in our minds first. Do you want 2019 to be another year that just goes by? Or do you want it to be the year you never forget because you finally did the things you'd been dreaming of doing. Time is flying by. Now is the time. So click the button below and claim this gift. Give yourself the gift of Vision. It's powerful.

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What 2018 taught me and brought me.

Wow. 2018 has been an incredible year.

A couple of weeks ago I was at a business event with some dear friends who I haven’t seen since January. They said I was unrecognizable.

Isn’t it amazing how time goes by and things come into our lives that completely change us? That’s what 2018 has felt like for me…

MASSIVE SHIFTS. MASSIVE GROWTH. MASSIVE LOVE. MASSIVE PROGRESS.

At the beginning of this year, I was unhappy. Just to be real. The day after Christmas my dad said, “We need to go on a drive.” On the drive he asked me what was going on that was making me more unhappy than he’d seen me in a years. The answer was a lot of things. But mainly, feeling like a victim in almost every area of my life. I was angry that I was back working at the hospital I’d worked at 4 years prior… hadn’t I come farther than this? I was frustrated that I’d gained 25 pounds in two months… is this my life without a thyroid? I was still sad about past boyfriends and blaming them for making me miserable for so long… will I ever get over it and move on? Will anyone ever love me?

Because of the deep anger I was feeling I was subconsciously pushing everyone away and making up lots of stories about how out of control my life was.

And then I woke up.

I was told that 2018 would be a year of endings… that it was in the stars that everything in life seemed not to be working. That gave me a lot of hope, and this year has proven to be interesting indeed. So many shifts. And they all started with me realizing I could create whatever I wanted to create.

Here are 10 (or maybe 11) of my TOP TAKE AWAYS from 2018. I didn’t think anything could beat the growth and learning I experienced in 2017, but this year proved that wrong. I am so grateful for the never-ending experiences that bring progress and growth.

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What 2018 Taught Me and Brought Me: Top 10 Take-Aways from this Year

1. ALL GOOD THINGS TAKE EFFORT AND TIME: At the beginning of each year I choose a word… a word I will focus on throughout the year. This year I chose CULTIVATE. I chose it because it is a natural tendency of mine to want things to happen NOW (anyone relate?) In this world of fast paced everything we are getting more and more impatient and I knew that if I was ever going to be successful at developing my business or creating a beautiful, intimate relationship, or getting my body back to the place I wanted to be, it was going to take effort and time.

Prioritizing this word throughout the year has HELPED me so much as I’ve slowly and healthily begun losing the weight I gained last year. Doing the inner work so I can attract the kind of man I want and deserve. Developed consistency in my business and watched as the effort begins to pay off. Life is like a garden and the more you cultivate it the better it will grow.

It doesn’t happen overnight. But the wait and the effort are worth it.

2. COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING: At the beginning of this year I felt so alone and isolated. It was my own creation and I was tired of it. I had spent the previous 3 years being pretty stubborn about the fact that I was an introvert who needed lots of alone time, that I was proudly an independent woman and therefore perfectly fine alone, and that I didn’t need the support of anyone around me.

I said that the thing I wanted more than anything was COMMUNITY and wow, has 2018 brought me that. I have met more people this year than I have met probably in the last 5 years combined. I have felt my heart expand to a size I didn’t know it could be and develop relationships, real deep, run to each other to hug relationships with more people than I can believe and I have a community of INCREDIBLE people that have my back 100%. They take a stand for me. They hold me high. They don’t let me quit. And they love me anyways.

Everything is better shared.

3. WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYTHING: We are responsible for everything we create in our lives. Everything. And when I fully grasped that, everything changed. I am not a victim to my life circumstance. I created the circumstance out of necessity of what I wanted to learn. Knowing this changed everything.

Relationships were healed, forgiveness was found, and acceptance was attained. When I stopped making myself a victim to my circumstance I started owning my LIFE and MAKING SHIT HAPPEN.

4. THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING GROUNDED: I have been drifting for a long time. In the past 5 years I have lived in 6 cities, 2 countries, and I don’t even know how many houses and jobs… all in the name of being a gypsy. But really I was drifting. I was lost. I couldn’t figure out what I wanted. And I was running from commitment and intimacy. You never have to get hurt if you leave before you can get attached. Wow. People have told me they never know where I’m going to be. Men have told me they are scared to date me because I may just leave.

And they were right. Up until now. I have realized how important it is to be grounded. To be grounded in a vision. To a community. To a direction. To a place. You can’t make much happen when you’re floating. Put your feet on the ground and start walking.

5. I’VE BEEN LOVED. I AM LOVED. I WILL ALWAYS BE LOVED: There was a moment this year when I literally felt my entire heart come back together. Every person I’ve ever loved. Every time I’ve ever had my heart broken. Every person that has walked out of my life. Every person I have left. I realized that every one of those people, no matter their place in my life now, loved me, taught me, and was there for a very specific reason. Every one of those people has a small part of them left in me.

“In my heart there will always be a place for you for all my life. I’ll keep a part of you with me. And everywhere I am there you’ll be.”

I could finally stand tall. I am whole.

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6. HOW IT FEELS TO ACTUALLY JUST BE ME: I have always felt like I wasn’t enough. Like people wouldn’t like me if I showed up as myself. I constantly felt exhausted from trying to be something I wasn’t and be “ENOUGH.” One night this summer I got home from a date and I just cried with a joy because I realized that for the first time EVER I had been 100% myself and it felt absolutely incredible. How freeing to realized that I am enough. I can just be me. And I am enough.

A dear friend gave me a bracelet this year that said, “BE YOURSELF” with a note that said, “When you have the courage to be yourself, you’ll feel a freedom like no other. The right people will love the real, beautiful, and creative soul that you are - quirks and all. Take a stand for authenticity and openness. Believe in yourself. To be yourself is to be free.”

I couldn’t say it better myself. I get to show my true colors.

7. THE MAGIC OF COMMITMENT: I have laughed the past couple of years saying that I am a commitment-phobe. It was funny until this year when I realized it was true. I realized that I hadn’t made a true commitment since I got divorced. After my marriage ended I think I lost trust in myself to make wise decisions and every single thing I did always came with a back-up plan and a back door in case I “changed my mind.”

This year I have realized the power that comes from making a declaration and committing to stay true to it no matter what happens, no matter what things get in the way, no matter what other people think you should do, no matter what doesn’t make sense. You can create anything you set your mind to. Confidence and self-trust comes from commitment and discipline. I trust myself and I have created magic this year.

8. TRUST THE PROCESS: I am a little bit of a control freak. I know, I know… I’m getting better. I feel like my entire life has been a test in faith and trust and believing that everything is happening FOR me. I have started to embrace the idea of living a life where I don’t need to have all the answers. Wow it’s hard. But I’m getting better.

9. MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD: This one might surprise you… yes I have struggled with my relationship with God for my whole life. I always felt like my relationship with God was dependent on what religion I participated in and was conditional on my actions. I have fought these beliefs tooth and nail for the last 4 years. This year I have finally let go of the struggle and learned to just be. God loves me. And he loves you. No Matter What.

10. GIVE TO GIVE: Service. Service without any expectation of anything in return. Giving just because your heart wants to. Loving without needing it in return. This concept has changed my life and I know will continue to play out in so many ways.

I never knew how much I gave to get before. How often I kept score in my head about who owed me what and who I could call on for a favor. Up until now. Now I give as much as I can. It feels so good to live in an abundance mindset, give without question, and ask for support when I need it. It’s not a game of who owes what. It is just about kindness. About generosity. About love.

Also, it’s incredibly sexy.

11. CLAIM YOUR LIFE AND TAKE A STAND: There is one more too important not to list. There have been several times in my life that I have considered the option of taking my own life. Even a year ago I had a few moments of despair. This year I had an opportunity to claim my life. To realize that there is no honor in being a martyr. That I get to live and use my life to create all of the incredible things I am destined to create. My life matters. My worth isn’t contingent on whether or not I have a partner, whether or not I have kids, whether or not my message is spreading to millions yet, whether or not I am debt-free.

I am worthy. I get to wake up every morning, recommit to the person I want to be, to the life I want to live, and then go out into the world and make things happen.

Well there you have it. The beautiful nuggets of wisdom I have gained this year.

Some of them are not little at all. Some of them are absolutely life altering. I am a confident, loving, radiant woman and I choose life. This life. Just the way I’ve created it. I’ve created this life to teach me all of the things I desired to learn. And I will continue walking forward, every day with my head held high, knowing that I am strong, I am loved, and that that is enough.

And 2019…. bring it on because it just keeps getting better.

What has 2018 brought and taught you?

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