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Courage to Be...

Okay…. so I never do this… but I am just so FIRED UP about this new program that launches TODAY that I am sharing it right here. Like I’m doing a happy dance over here just thinking about you reading this!

Do you feel a lack of direction? Do you feel like you know what you want to do but you don’t have the energy to do it? Do you feel like financial freedom will never be yours? Do you feel like it’s hard to maintain balance in your life? Do you feel like you are just constantly going and never feeling fulfilled?


Do you feel like you are stuck trying to survive and are ready to THRIVE?


If even the tiniest part of you said yes to the questions above, then this group program is for you!


Hey, I get it. I was in a surviving mentality for a LONG TIME. My entire 20’s I was a survivor and I was proud of it. I survived domestic abuse. Proud of it. I survived putting myself through college and working every second of the way. Proud of it. I survived financial stress and moving all over the place. I was so proud of that gypsy lifestyle! Some part of me felt like the more I had to struggle the stronger it meant I was. Then I survived cancer. Proud of it. Did all of these life events make me stronger? Absolutely! Am I grateful for them? YES. Do I have to merely survive or was a meant to thrive?


We are creatures made for survival and so when events in our lives trigger us into that place, sometimes it can be hard to get out, but let me tell you, we are meant to THRIVE, it just takes a little unlearning of old habits and relearning of new ones.


So, if you are ready to THRIVE, then join me in my “Courage to Be” School. Doors are OPEN NOW.


In this 8-week program you are going to get the SUCCESS FRAMEWORK for how to THRIVE. This will include 4 modules that will each deep-dive into 4 areas that will restructure the way you are thinking and the way you are living so that you can begin to Thrive.


Ask yourself these questions…

1) What can you do to make a life you love?

2) What is your driving force to keep you going?

3) How can you maintain the energy required to extend your influence?

4) Who will you BE to create your thriving tomorrow?

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These are the questions we’ll be answering together, PLUS SO MUCH MORE!

You’ll be getting audio trainings and worksheets to work you through each step. You’ll be getting a facebook group and group calls to make friends, feel so completely supported, learn from one another, and make friends for life. I still remember the first group program I was in, yep still friends, I’ve even met some of them in real life! You’ll get bonus trainings, a copy of my book, a BONUS limiting beliefs blaster session individually with me and so much more!

But why does this matter for you???

Because in Courage to Be, you are going to learn the framework for SUCCESS so you can understand your PURPOSE, cultivate more HAPPINESS, CONFIDENCE, & ENERGY and experience the FREEDOM to THRIVE being YOU.

Because guess what I know? Freedom can seem scary. We can be so used to our way of surviving that doing anything different can feel scary and as much as we want to start THRIVING fear will keep us stuck.

Don’t let this be you. Now is the time to step out of your comfort zone and claim what’s meant for you.

This is why it matters for YOU -

“To fulfill my creative potential and by loving myself and others to help establish a more peaceful and loving world.”

“To live a long and healthy life for my son.”

“To feel good and to feel like I'm contributing and being the best version of myself.”

“I can show up in my life much more powerfully whether to make new friendships or make more sales.”

Whether you are finding resilience through a recent struggle or you are just ready to up-level your mindset so you can create what you want next in relationships or business this course is for you.

Take a step today and book your Courage Call with me TODAY. I can’t wait to talk to you and see what you are desiring in your life and how I can help you get to the next level. Click the link below to book your call. Talk soon. :)

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Be Brave Meditation

I have a special gift for you today… I’m gifting you some of the words to my Be Brave Meditation…. and if you sign up and attend my BLANK Webinar this Thursday you will receive the meditation download as a gift just for attending.

Click HERE to claim your spot!

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Courage is not the absence of fear… it is the ability to look past the fear and do the thing anyways.

I hope these words will assist you in finding courage to overcome your biggest fears and make your dreams come true.

Be Brave Meditation

I am filled with courage. I am filled with courage. I am filled with courage.


Dig down deep inside of yourself and feel the courage that lies within you.  Feel the confidence. Feel the strength. See that light that you hold within you and feel of the power.


I am filled with courage.


Feel the courage lies within you. Feel the power that pumps through your veins.  We each have a place of strength, of power, of courage that lies within. Go deeper inside yourself, deeper and deeper until you can literally feel the deep well of courage that lies within you.


I am courageous. I am strong. I am powerful. I am courageous.


Feel the power that lies within you.  Imagine yourself standing tall. Power pose. Fearless.  What challenge do you face? Where do you need more courage.  Call on courage to be by your side. Call on courage to see you through.  Dig deep and summon your strength. Dig deep and call on your power. You are strong.  You are courageous. And you are powerful.


I am courageous. I am courageous. I am courageous.


I face my fears. I stand in confidence. I am true to myself. I do that which I am called to do. I am courageous.

I say what I need to say.

I do what I need to do.

I express myself honestly and appropriately.

I ask for support when I need it. I know others are there to lift me up.

I am courageous.


I am confident. I am powerful. I am a brave warrior, strong and true.

I am courageous.


Now bring to mind a situation in your life where you have been courageous.  Think of a time when you have been afraid but found the courage to do it anyways. To be it anyways.  Courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to walk through it. Reflect on this time when you have felt courage and let the memory of this time awaken the courage that lies within you.


I am courageous. I am courageous. I am courageous.


Allow courage to be your companion.  Call on courage frequently throughout your day.  Do not seek to be unafraid. Seek instead to have  courage. Face your fears. Walk through your fears, as you do your fears will diminish and have less of a hold on you.  Call on your courage. Call on your strength. Call on your wisdom. Call on your power. These allies are within you and there at your beckon call.  Go deep within yourself and find the strength and courage to face your fears and to embrace your challenges. As you do your fears will lessen and you will walk into the life that you were meant to live.


I am courageous. I am strong. I am powerful. I am brave.

I am courageous.

I am courageous.

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Developing Confidence

Last summer, I was in the car with my family driving home from a wonderful family weekend at our cabin and my mom posed a question...

What brings happiness? What is the #1 ingredient for happiness?

We talked about a lot of things, being grateful (which I think is a fast second), feeling loved, having purpose, feeling accepted in your relationships, being happy with what you're doing in your life.... but the thing that stuck out to me the most was having self-confidence. Believing in yourself and feeling like you are capable of accomplishing the things you want to accomplish is the number one thing that brings happiness.

Because this is the one thing that you have 100% control of. We can't control how others treat us, what others think about us, or even the exact circumstances of our lives sometimes. But we can control how we respond to our circumstances and what we think about ourselves and our ability to handle the things life throws at us.

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The past couple of years I have been schooled in self-confidence.

For me, 2017 began with a relationship I had been hoping for ending, getting fired from my job, and being diagnosed with thyroid cancer. All of these things changed the circumstances of my life and led to some questioning of my self-confidence. A month later I launched by business, and let me tell you, that has been a roller-coaster of highs and lows, some days feeling on top of the world and other days questioning my entire capabilities as a human being (it's scary putting your whole self out there for the world to see).

A couple of months later I had to do a round of radiation where I had to be in slight isolation for a week. This brought out a whole new level of insecurity I have about people not liking me (which is a limiting belief I've worked on). I had some friends that were supportive, some people that I think just didn't understand, and some people that were down right mean about it, which didn't help and led to some days spent working through some massive shame.

The end of that year brought a constant battle with my self-confidence because of some massive body image issues (we're all a work in progress right?) Through this whole experience my body has undergone a lot (surgery, losing my thyroid, hormone imbalances) and my body trying to figure out what the heck is going on, which has led to some definite unwanted weight gain.

Just to be clear...

there were some pretty great things that happened that year as well, and I'm pretty grateful that I am alive and cancer free 2 years later, but I tell you the hard moments to let you know that I get it. I think I can be safe in saying self-doubt and confidence are things every person in this world struggles with on occasion.

Self-confidence is a muscle that we must consistently work on in order for it to be  strong, life throws curve-balls at us that test our capacities in many different ways, and the trick to overcoming is focusing on the things you can control and how you can use those curve-balls to INCREASE your self-confidence instead of allowing them to destroy you.

So.... what can we do to increase our self-confidence and increase our level of happiness?

1. Use Challenges to Your Advantage. - If something unexpected and challenging comes into your life, instead of getting discouraged and frustrated, change your perspective and challenge yourself. Ask yourself what you can do to overcome it, plan out your game plan, and watch yourself grow and achieve. Unexpected life challenges can actually become a huge WIN for our self-confidence because we witness what we are actually capable of.

2. Question your Inner Critic. - Is your self-doubt warranted or are you being too hard on yourself? We are our worst critics and most of the time need to step back and see if the way we are thinking about ourselves is actually reality. Disprove your limiting beliefs. Re-frame them into affirmations. Our mindset is everything.

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” -- Louise L. Hay

3. Talk to Yourself like you Would Talk to your Best Friend. - This one coincides with the one before. Would you tell your best friend that they are fat and no one will like them? No. :) So why do we talk to ourselves this way? Put a rubber band on your wrist and every time your catch yourself saying something mean to yourself, stop thought, snap (literally) yourself out of it and cut that habit!

4. Help Someone Else. - Honestly, the best way I know of to increase your self-confidence and happiness is to help someone else. We all like to feel needed and capable. When we reach out and serve others we recognize the abilities we do have and the ways we can bring joy and happiness to others lives.

Forget yourself and go to work.” -- Gordon B. Hinckley

5. Do One Thing That Scares You Everyday. - We increase our self-confidence by doing hard things. As mentioned above, sometimes these hard things are thrown at us out of the blue and we have to work to overcome. Other times life might be smooth-sailing and that complacency to growth can also lead to a drop in self-esteem even though things seem to be going alright.

Take initiative to do something that scares you every day. The best way to overcome fear is to face it head on. Get out of your comfort zone and just do it!

6. Visualize Yourself as You Want to Be. - The dominating thoughts of the mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward and gradually transform themselves into reality. I challenge you to spend 30 minutes (or at least 10) to visualizing the person you want to become and the life you are working to achieve. Create a clear mental picture. What you can see you can achieve.

“What the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve.” -- Napoleon Hill

7. Take Care of Yourself. - Prioritize your happiness, by prioritizing your health. Get enough sleep (7-9 hours a night), move your body (exercise enlivens your mind, body, and soul), take time to make yourself look the way you like, and pamper yourself once in a while.

There are a lot of things in life that are out of our control: unforeseen health issues, family drama, accidents, loss of jobs, how other people treat us, etc. But there are a lot of things we CAN control and these are the things we can work on to develop our self-confidence.

2018 brought some new experiences and opportunities to exemplify TRUE confidence.

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Learning to fall in love with myself and my body just the way I am. Learning to love others no matter what love I was getting back. Learning how to put myself out there and actually be seen. Learning how to be true to myself and how when I use my voice, speak my truth, and have integrity with myself that’s when true confidence grows.

Increasing our self-confidence is the key to increasing our happiness. It really is that simple. :)

Click below to schedule a time to chat with me! Sometimes it is that simple, but we need some one-on-one support to help us see it and create the habits that will make a difference. I can't wait to chat with you!


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Authenticity

As we wrap up February I wanted to let you in on a little secret… this month’s theme was Authenticity. This post is all about loving on yourself and getting clear on all of the things that make you YOU. Tom Rath, an American Author, said “The key to human development is building on who you already are.”

The greatest act of love you can give to another person is to love them for exactly who they are. It makes sense then that the greatest act of love you can give yourself is to be true to yourself, be truly authentic, and love yourself for exactly who you are. Because there is no one just like you!

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It is a daily practice of letting go of who we think we are supposed to be and embracing who we are. This is called being authentic. Being true to yourself.

Brene Brown said, “Our authenticity is the very foundation from which all meaningful change occurs.”

We have to have a clear sense of WHO we are and WHAT we believe and to feel CONFIDENT enough to share it. Knowing what makes you you, and knowing WHAT is important to you and WHY gives you confidence.

AND being 100% true to you, getting rid of the chameleon complex and not comparing yourself to others. You get to be just like your favorite flower, unique and beautiful just the way you are.

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Not what other people think you are or what other people think should be important to you, but what you actually feel. I spent a lot of years worrying too much what other people thought and not enough about what I thought of myself. It was this fact alone that kept me from discovering my purpose for as long as I did. It was always there, I just had to get brave enough to admit it.

Below are 5 things that can help you develop the habit of authenticity.

1. Experiencing What Is - being present and focusing on what is actually happening.

2. Being Transparent - not hiding anything back. Speaking your truth and giving up the need to control.

3. Asserting What You Want and Don't Want - Stand up for yourself and give value to your needs.

4. Taking Back Projections - Letting go of assumptions.

5. Sharing Mixed Feelings/Emotions - Talking about your feelings and acknowledging that you can experience mixed emotions over the same event.

"By letting go of the need to be right, safe, and certain in favor of being real, unique, and open to surprise, you affirm yourself as a living, ever-changing presence - participating in life's changes instead of trying to control them. You are energetically alive." - Susan Campbell

This is the key to developing authenticity. Just being you. And letting the positive energy flow.

Remember > You are Uniquely You!!

P.S. If you’d like to join our Lighter and Brighter Tribe of unique and beautiful women click the link below! It’s free and we can’t wait to meet you!

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How To: Bring Your Personality to Your Space

I am such a strong believer in the fact that our physical environment influences our state of mind. Our space creates the way we feel. In my 20’s I have lived the life of a traveling gypsy. Never feeling settled, moving every 6 months, living in basement apartments in San Francisco, moving in and out of my home in Las Vegas, 3 different places in Washington and DC. I am so happy that I have found what feels like home and where I intend to stay for a long time.

Because I am so passionate about space, I wanted to write about how YOU can add personality into your space. As we go out into the world every day we are inundated with other people's personalities and opinions and judgments and differing values and by the end of the day this can leave us feeling depleted and a little unsure of ourselves.

One great way to keep yourself grounded and uplift your soul on a daily basis is to add touches of your personality, or your family's personality, to your space.

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How to Add Personality to your Space

1. Tell Your Story

Each room in your home can tell a story. When you begin decorating this is where you should begin. What do you want people to know about you when they come into this room? How do you want them to feel? What types of items will bring this out in the room? Use photos, mementos, and curated items to tell the story of you and your family.

2. Display a Collection

Collections tell a lot about a person's personality. Maybe you collect vases or paintings or wall clocks. Maybe you collect musical instruments, records, or stamps. Don't hide these things away. Display them! Let people in on the things you're interested in. And give yourself a daily reminder of what makes you excited and makes you, well, YOU.

3. Mix Old and New

Display old items that are family heirlooms, personal treasures, or things that remind you of your childhood along with new items that don't have personal meaning at all, but enhance the look of the display of the personal items. Buy a beautiful sconce to display a family heirloom on. Display a picture of your favorite world city. Bring out the vintage in things by contrasting them with new.

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4. Neutral Furniture

When purchasing large pieces of furniture, go neutral so you have the versatility to change other things up when you get bored. You can always change pillows and accessories in a room to give it a completely different look! If you're like me, you get bored quickly, so this is an inexpensive way to have the ability to completely redo the look of a room.

5. Lighting

Who hasn't spent over an hour perusing every single item in Ikea's lighting section? Oh, just me? My heart starts beating a hundred miles an hour every time I turn that corner, I'm like a mosquito being drawn to the light. haha. Lamps and interior lighting are such a great way to add personality to any space. Get a colorful lamp for your bedroom. Get a funky chandelier to light up your dining room or an interesting desk lamp to ignite your creativity at work. The options are endless here. HAVE FUN WITH LIGHTING.

6. Display Items that Speak to What You Value

What are your core values? Is love at the top of your list? Maybe it's humor? Or family? The Outdoors? Fun? Use your space to remind you of these values on the daily. Display photos of you and those you love showing these values. Put out books and magazines that represent them. Display your outdoor gear. Have a game room that displays your love for togetherness and fun. Whatever you value most, use your space to let it shine!

7. Make Things Your Own

It can be so fun to take something you already have or some generic thing you bought at Hobby Lobby and make it uniquely your own! Paint it your favorite color, add quirky handles to redesign a boring old dresser, glue old childhood jewelry to a mirror and display it for all to see. It's amazing how good it can feel to get creative and make something all your own.

8. Variety=Personality

MIX THINGS UP. Display metals on wood or color on white. Put things where they might not normally belong. Forget the rules and have fun. If you are a rule follower, follow all the rules. Again, this is about making your space scream YOU.

9. Create Conversation Pieces

When you display personal items, items that you made yourself, and quirky collections, you invite people to ask about them. They get to know you, the real you. And there is something so wonderful and connecting about sharing pieces of ourselves with others. It is what creates friendship and love. Give yourself permission to show up for others to see.

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10. Inspire

Use your space to inspire yourself and those around you. Hang beautiful pictures, display your hobbies and skills, find creative and aesthetic ways to display your aspirations and goals. Use all or some of the tips above to continue to inspire yourself to BE YOURSELF. Because there is no better way to inspire others and light up this world than by being your one true self.

There you have it! I absolutely LOVE helping people create a space that displays them. Have fun with this. You already know what to do and already have what you need to do it. Pull out the poster you bought in China and put it up on the wall! Print out some of those photos on your phone (what?! People still develop pictures?!) and display them. Display the tiara you wore on your wedding day. Hang and dry the flowers (or weeds) your little boy brought into you. It's about the little things.

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