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Get Curious and Explore

When was the last time you went somewhere you had never gone? Like actually stepped OUTSIDE and went somewhere? When was the last time you allowed yourself to explore? To get curious about the world around you?

According to NASA, and Google, humans explore because of an innate desire to learn about the world around them. The urge to explore was ingrained in the psyche so that human ancestors could find places that were abundant in food, water and other resources necessary for survival. Nowadays we have the ability to sit at our computer and pull up basically any place in the entire world and see it on our screens!

While I admit, that is freaking AWESOME, and I have spent my fair share of time exploring things I wish I could see from the safety of my computer screen, there is NOTHING that beats the rush, joy, and recharging capacity as getting outside and seeing something new.

Exploration wakes up the brain.

It ignites creativity. It usually involves some type of exercise which benefits every single area of your life. It opens your eyes. It heightens gratitude. It makes you more social. It gives you more drive to continue the work.

As you’re on your path, learning about yourself, discovering your purpose, and figuring out what makes you tick it is so important to be curious…. To get interested in yourself and what excites you. Just get out and explore. Because guess what it does.

It makes you feel alive.

So, in this endeavor of feeling lighter and brighter. In this endeavor to discover more fully your purpose. And on this endeavor to show yourself a little more love, get outside and explore. Even if it's just your own backyard. There are SO many things to see, learn, and do. Just get outside.

Oh... and while solo adventures can be the best medicine sometimes, taking people you love with you while you explore, makes the self-love degree even greater.  

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Your Purposeful Life

So... let's talk about purpose. We all want to find our life "purpose." That thing that is going to light us up and make us want to wake up and jump out of bed in the morning, right? It seems that this process is growing increasingly more and more difficult to navigate. Why is this?

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One reason that finding our purpose is more difficult in our world today is because there are so much MORE options to choose from and roads to take. We live in an amazingly exciting time. The information and technology world that we live in has changed our economic system along with the way we view our purpose. The career possibilities are ENDLESS and it is becoming increasingly harder to decide on one thing to do or be.

Regardless of this, there are steps you can take to finding that life of purpose you yearn for. There are avenues that will bring you greater meaning and fulfillment than others because of all of the things that make you uniquely you. I have chosen to be a life coach based on my passion for psychology, love of all things self-help, and my natural ability to understand and love people. Now, put me in a science lab and ask me to do research on how to cure cancer and I would probably go insane. Even so, this decision was not an easy decision for me to make and I understand how incredibly treacherous of a journey it can feel like when you find yourself there. Believe me, do I know! So here are 7 steps you can use to help you find the thing/things that will bring you the most meaning and purpose in your life.

Step 1. Childhood Influences

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Some people believe that our society and childhood upbringing do not influence who we are today, but that is simply not true. They DO influence who we are to the deepest level. That doesn’t mean that past experiences can’t be worked through and moved on from, but recognizing how your past influences who you are today is the first step in finding your purpose.

Another thing that seems to come up here is that there are some people who have a specific talent that is so extreme that it is easy to detect that they were truly “made” to do it. For the rest of us, determining what we were “made to do” can be a little less obvious. Part of the reason our natural skills and abilities are not obvious is because most of us are influenced by our families and society to follow paths that we’re “supposed” to do. Our roles, careers, hobbies, and relationships are often chosen for us more because of our conditioning or because we feel we “should” rather than because they are a fit for who we truly are. I put off looking into interior design programs for years and years mainly because I didn’t think my parents would think that career was “scholarly” enough. Not until I finally took off the masks I had been wearing because of who/what I thought I was “supposed to be, did I finally come to manifest my purpose.

Step 2. Personality

Personality is the set of descriptive terms which are used to describe an individual. Gordon Allport said, “Personality is the dynamic organization INSIDE a person… characteristics, patterns of behavior, thoughts, and feelings.” What do you value? What makes you tick? How do you prefer to work? How do you relate to your world? Investigating your personality can be so powerful.

There are so many tests. I’d suggest you take one. My favorite is the 16 personalities Test. Look it up and take it, I promise it will give you some clues. And maybe you won’t agree with everything. Take another one. There are color tests, the enneagram… try them all and pull the things you agree with because while these tests are great starting points, you are unique and cannot be placed into a little box. But they will give you insights and I bet you will agree with more than you think.

Step 3. Passions and Interests

In life, there are things we just absolutely LOVE to do. There are things we naturally feel drawn to. There are activities we lose ourselves in when we experience flow. When thinking about your passions and interests, ask yourself, what did I enjoy doing as a child? What do I do in my free time? If I could do anything, I would… fill in the blank. When do I feel energized? When do I feel “lost” in what I’m doing, when the world seems to melt away? Look into the things that fill you up. That bring you joy. That you just love doing.

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Step 4. Talents and Skills

There are things we are innately good at. That we have had inside us since birth. These are our talents. Look into those things. And think outside the box. Not all talents are the most visible to the naked eye. Some are less obvious. If you are having a hard time seeing your talents, ask your family and friends. I promise they will be able to fill you in on what you are not seeing yourself.

Skills, on the other hand, are something you develop. So, when thinking about your purpose, don’t get caught thinking that just because something doesn’t come naturally to you doesn’t mean you aren’t meant to do it. There are some things in anything you will do that you have to learn. I am naturally good at listening and helping people find solutions. However, I am not so good at figuring out how to embed code into my website. If I would have stopped when everything didn’t come naturally, I wouldn’t have made it here.

Step 5. Life Changing Experiences

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Life is so complex that we sometimes miss patterns or circumstances that have truly influenced us because we are so focused on getting by or thinking about the past or future. However… nothing is a coincidence and things happen for a reason. When trying to find your purpose, look back over your life, what things stand out? What experiences have been especially meaningful to you? What has your life been focused on? See any themes? Have you been being guided the whole time? Maybe you are right at the cusp of your mission, being prepared all along the way.

Step 6. Eliminating Limiting Beliefs

Limiting Beliefs are behind every fear, frustration, and obstacle. I am so passionate about this subject because I struggled with limiting beliefs my entire life until I discovered this. And it's still a process, believe me. In order fully discover your purpose, you must pull the plug on limiting beliefs and empower yourself with new empowering beliefs. This takes time and effort, but it is SO worth it. You have to believe you can do anything. Because you can.

Step 7. Clarify Your Purpose

Combine everything you’ve learned along these 7 steps and move in a direction. What direction are you being pointed? Sometimes we have to take a few steps before we know if it feels right. You have the power to rewrite your story. Don’t like where you’re headed? The direction you’re going in doesn’t feel, right? CHANGE!

Give yourself permission to change your mind. To experiment. That’s the beauty of this path of discovery. It’s a journey. You can enjoy the process.

And Always remember… You can have anything you truly desire.

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Mindset Essential Oils

Aromatherapy is the practice of using the natural oils extracted from flowers, bark, stems, leaves, roots or other parts of a plant to enhance psychological and physical well-being. 

The inhaled aroma from these "essential" oils is widely believed to stimulate brain function. Essential oils can also be absorbed through the skin, where they travel through the bloodstream and can promote whole-body healing.

A form of alternative medicine, aromatherapy is gaining momentum. It is used for a variety of applications, including pain relief, mood enhancement and increased cognitive function. 

There are a wide number of essential oils available, each with its own healing properties.

One of my favorite Doterra collections is their Emotional Aromatherapy System Blends. I LOVE these and incorporate them daily in my healing rituals, mood management, and overall well-being. I also have my clients use them in their creation journeys and they love them as well. You can read about each of them below.

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THE DOTERRA EMOTIONAL AROMATHERAPY SYSTEM INCLUDES SIX UNIQUE BLENDS (taken from doterra.com)

  • Motivate® Encouraging Blend is a wonderful combination of several citrus and mint essential oils, including Yuzu, Clementine, and Peppermint. The resulting chemical profile is high in monoterpenes and monoterpene alcohols, which are known for their uplifting and toning properties.
     

  • Cheer® Uplifting Blend is an invigorating mixture of citrus and spice essential oils. Featuring Wild Orange, Cinnamon Bark, and Star Anise essential oils, the resulting chemical profile is rich in monoterpene and aldehydes, renowned for their uplifting and warming properties.
     

  • Passion® Inspiring Blend balances spice and herbal essential oils. Combining Cinnamon Bark, Ginger, Cardamom, Clove, and Damiana creates a chemical profile with high concentrations of phenols and ethers to provide warming and renewing benefits.
     

  • Forgive® Renewing Blend mixes familiar tree and herb essential oils to create a diverse chemical profile with high concentrations of monoterpene esters and alcohols. Pure Thyme essential oil along with several tree oils produces a blend with renewing and toning properties.
     

  • Console® Comforting Blend combines floral and tree essential oils. The combination of Rose absolute, Ylang Ylang, Frankincense, Sandalwood, and several other highly valued tree and flower essential oils creates a blend rich in both monoterpenes and sesquiterpene alcohols. The final product mirrors its chemical component composition, being highly grounding and renewing.
     

  • Peace® Reassuring Blend is a fusion of floral and mint essential oils. The amalgamation of popular essential oils such as Lavender and Spearmint, along with the essence of some lesser-known plants such as Labdanum creates a chemical profile rich in monoterpene esters and alcohols for a renewing and toning experience.

If you’d like to know about any one of these oils and how they can benefit YOU, reply in the comments below.

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Courage to Be School

I am just so FIRED UP about COURAGE TO BE SCHOOL, and doors for enrollment will be closing this week! I’m doing a happy dance over here just thinking about you reading this, because I’m soooooo excited for those that have already joined the group and those of you that will fill in our remaining few spots!

Do you feel a lack of direction? Do you feel like you know what you want to do but you don’t have the energy to do it? Do you feel like financial freedom will never be yours? Do you feel like it’s hard to maintain balance in your life? Do you feel like you are just constantly going and never feeling fulfilled?

Do you feel like you are stuck trying to survive and are ready to THRIVE?

If even the tiniest part of you said yes to the questions above, then this group program is for you!

Hey, I get it. I was in a surviving mentality for a LONG TIME. My entire 20’s I was a survivor and I was proud of it. I survived domestic abuse. Proud of it. I survived putting myself through college and working every second of the way. Proud of it. I survived financial stress and moving all over the place. I was so proud of that gypsy lifestyle! Some part of me felt like the more I had to struggle the stronger it meant I was. Then I survived cancer. Proud of it. Did all of these life events make me stronger? Absolutely! Am I grateful for them? YES. Do I have to merely survive or was a meant to thrive?

We are creatures made for survival and so when events in our lives trigger us into that place, sometimes it can be hard to get out, but let me tell you, we are meant to THRIVE, it just takes a little unlearning of old habits and relearning of new ones.

So, if you are ready to THRIVE, then join me in my “Courage to Be” School. Doors are OPEN NOW.

In this 8-week program you are going to get the SUCCESS FRAMEWORK for how to THRIVE. This will include 4 modules that will each deep-dive into 4 areas that will restructure the way you are thinking and the way you are living so that you can begin to Thrive.

Ask yourself these questions…

1) What can you do to make a life you love?

2) What is your driving force to keep you going?

3) How can you maintain the energy required to extend your influence?

4) Who will you BE to create your BRAVE tomorrow?

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These are the questions we’ll be answering together, PLUS SO MUCH MORE!

You’ll be getting audio trainings and worksheets to work you through each step. You’ll be getting a facebook group and group calls to make friends, feel so completely supported, learn from one another, and make friends for life. I still remember the first group program I was in, yep still friends, I’ve even met some of them in real life! You’ll get bonus trainings, a copy of my book, a BONUS limiting beliefs blaster session individually with me and so much more!

But why does this matter for you???

Because in Courage to Be School, you are going to learn the framework for SUCCESS so you can understand your PURPOSE, cultivate more HAPPINESS, CONFIDENCE, & ENERGY and experience the FREEDOM to THRIVE being YOU.

Because guess what I know? Freedom can seem scary. We can be so used to our way of surviving that doing anything different can feel scary and as much as we want to start THRIVING fear will keep us stuck.

Don’t let this be you. Now is the time to step out of your comfort zone and claim what’s meant for you.

This is why it matters for YOU -

“To fulfill my creative potential and by loving myself and others to help establish a more peaceful and loving world.”

“To live a long and healthy life for my son.”

“To feel good and to feel like I'm contributing and being the best version of myself.”

“I can show up in my life much more powerfully whether to make new friendships or make more sales.”

Whether you are finding resilience through a recent struggle or you are just ready to up-level your mindset so you can create what you want next in relationships or business this course is for you.

Take a step today and book your Courage Call with me TODAY. I can’t wait to talk to you and see what you are desiring in your life and how I can help you get to the next level.

Click the link below to book your call. Talk soon. :)

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Outer Spring Cleaning

Spring Cleaning… it’s a term I grew up hearing and wondered what does that actually mean? Well now that I’m grown and have a space of my own, I totally get it! At this time of year when everything is renewing itself outside it makes me want to clean up, de-clutter, and bring some new life to my home as well.

Our outer space is a huge reflection of what is going on in the inside. I know for me, when I'm stressed or have a ton going on, my car, bedroom, kitchen, and desk reflect that. Anyone else? That's why we covered INNER Spring Cleaning first. (see post here)

Once you've done the inner work, how fun is it to represent that in your outer space. It's also an important aspect to clear the energy and step into the new YOU.

"Spring Cleaning isn't just about sorting through things and getting rid of clutter. It's about taking stock of who you are, and how others see you. It's a chance to redefine yourself, to change expectations, and to remember that it's never too late to recapture who you are, or to aim for who you want to be." - Anonymous

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Spring is the perfect opportunity to go through your stuff and take the chance to redefine yourself and your space. I’ve been doing this. I went through my studio and made piles of things that no longer serve a purpose in my life. Books that I haven't read and honestly probably never will. Books that I did read and didn't really change my life. I went through my desk and came up with an entire garbage bag alone of all the things I no longer need.

I kept going and came up with another garbage bag of things that just could go straight in the trash. And then I started on my closet, and let me tell you, my closet is smaller than it's ever been in my entire life. I have been meticulously going through it and getting rid of things a bit at a time for the last 2 years. But this time just felt like the finale, I filled up 2 more garbage bags full of clothes and shoes and purses and belts. If I haven't used it or worn it in the last 6 months it went in the bag. I like the idea of having I 30 winter items and 30 summer items. (and I may add, I’ve learned that yes, San Diego does have a winter.) I didn't quite make it but almost.

It feels amazing.

It feels amazing to be able to actually see the clothes in my closet without having to pull them apart. It feels amazing to know that the 10 pairs of shoes in my closet actually get worn on a regular basis. I feels amazing to see just the 3 bags that I actually use hanging on the wall. It feels amazing to look at my book shelf and only see books that light me up and bring wonderful messages to my memory. It feels amazing to get in my desk and see only the 5 pens and 3 pencils that I actually like. If my motto in life and business is that today is the day to feel lighter and brighter, then I definitely want this reflected in my home.

So what tools have I used in how to make decisions about how to de-clutter my home? Below are 5 suggestions you can easily implement in your own spring cleaning, no matter what the weather is doing outside.

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Spring Cleaning for your Home Tips

1. Spark Joy Method. - This method is from Marie Kondo's magic of tidying up. When I first read it, I'll admit, I thought it sounded pretty silly. However, I implemented the strategy and it works. If I pick up an article and it doesn't spark joy in me, I get rid of it. This means that I keep the drumsticks even though I no longer have a drum set because when I pick them up I am filled with the memories of playing and that makes me feel joy. But the books I've never made time to read and the clothes that don't fit anymore and the 45 extra pens I have in desk... those all have to go. Just try it.

2. If you haven't used it in a year, get rid of it. - I know, you're cleaning out stuff and you come across something that you haven't used in years and you just know that as soon as you throw it out you will find a need for it, but guess what? You will improvise. You will find another way. And if you haven't used it in at least a year, you should throw it away or give it to someone who will enjoy it.

3. For Sentimental Items - If it has sentimental value, but it sits in a box in your closet or basement 365 days a year, take a picture of it, save it in a special folder on your computer and lovingly give it away. If you can't bear to do that find a place to display it. If you're going to keep it, it needs to add value to your daily life.

4. Pile Method. - Put everything in a room in a pile on the floor and go through it one item at a time. This may seem crazy and overwhelming, but it really works at seeing the sheer volume of STUFF that you have and quickly lightening your load. Make sure to do one room at a time with this method. :)

5. Don't Buy Stuff You Don't Need. - This one is not about getting rid of stuff, but about not adding more to the load once you get rid of stuff. You may find that once you declutter and get rid of stuff you may feel this compulsive NEED to go to Target and find stuff to replace the stuff you just got rid of. Resist this urge! Once you have decluttered your home, allow yourself a moment to breathe into the feeling of your new space, rearrange things if you need to feel something new, and embrace the lightness and brightness that remains.

TODAY IS THE DAY TO FEEL LIGHTER AND BRIGHTER.

Inside AND Out.

For some added inspiration, check out these amazing resources... The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up By: Marie Kondo, The Year of Less: How I Stopped Shopping, Gave Away My Belongings, and Discovered Life Is Worth More Than Anything You Can Buy in a Store By: Cait Flanders

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